LET'S BE REAL: A CANDID CONVERSATION WITH MARISSA RUBENSTEIN OF BRIGHTEST YOUNG THINGS

In our second installment of this series, we’re featuring Marissa Rubenstein: an all around badass, and event planner extraordinaire. We met Marissa through her work with Brightest Young Things. We’re constantly amazed by what she’s able to pull off, bringing together thousands of people in the coolest, most unexpected, spots in the city. We’re excited to see all the unreal things this girlboss pulls off in the future.


Introduce yourself! What do you want people to know about you and what you do?!

My name is Marissa Rubenstein and I’m responsible for events and experiential marketing at Brightest Young Things (an event production/ creative agency and online magazine).

What does living a balanced lifestyle mean to you?

I’m super active and always on the go so to me taking some time to pause / meditate / hang out on my couch and binge watch spy shows is a way of creating balance in my life. That being said I have a notification to meditate that goes off on my phone every day and I constantly ignore it.

What's your fitness routine?

Lots of yoga and pilates! I love CorePower’s yoga sculpt class (which sometimes feels like a battle for survival) and Reformation Fitness for pilates. I try and go to SoulCyle as much as I can but lately I’ve been trying to focus more on yoga.

What does eating mindfully mean to you?

It’s so cliche but truly the whole “your body is a temple” thing is really something that I aspire to. I’m not super great at it though, and have a horrible habit of having soup like 6 times a week. I am a vegan though so I stay away from animal products (and honey!).

It’s so cliche but truly the whole “your body is a temple” thing is really something that I aspire to.

What do you drink in a normal day? (coffee, tea, water, juice, energy drinks etc)

I drink a TON of coffee. I usually start the day with a giant coffee, I have to constantly remember to drink water, I get dehydrated really easily (I’ve been hospitalized twice for it, whoops!) and so try to make sure I am drinking water throughout the day. We have a Joe and The Juice across the street from the BYT office where I like to have meetings, I’ll run over and get a Sex Me Up (which is not the best to order in front of clients but whatever). It’s Passion fruit, apple and ginger and so delicious.

How do you cope with stress?

I try and make sure I have de-stressing mechanisms in my daily life to force me to de-stress. I have a really stressful job so things like making sure I do yoga every day and almost every night when I get home I make sure to have an hour or so before I go to bed where I don’t talk to anyone/ answer any emails/ etc. and instead watch a show (I’m obsessed with Ballers on HBO), listen to a podcast, read, etc.

What are your favorite cities? Why?

Sydney, Australia, because it’s a tropical version of London (accidental Rancid reference) and it’s just such a breathtakingly gorgeous city. Gold Coast, Australia, I studied abroad there and that time in my life was truly the happiest I have ever been. Australia is just fantastic. Barcelona, because it is truly magical - you have the beach and the mountains and that certain feeling in the air you don’t find anywhere else in the world, you just feel like anything is possible there. Rome, because I love Italy and I’m just weirdly comfortable there, it felt like home as soon as I arrived.

What do you wish people were more open or real about when it comes to fitness, living a balanced lifestyle or the drinking culture?

I wish we would all just admit that NO ONE has the answers, we’re all kind of just out here trying to do our best. Anyone who says differently is selling something. (purposeful Princess Bride reference)

How do you seek out community?

I try and go to as many events outside of BYT events as I can, and I try and push myself to say yes to as many things as I can. I also have really solid and supportive community of friends (and coworkers) that I’m really lucky to have in my life.

What's the hardest part of maintaining a work life balance?

I love my job, because it’s so in your face and challenging and I truly feel unlimited in my ability to find new clients and do cool things, and that kind of ability is addictive, and I love being constantly in motion. So for me the hardest part is recognizing that I have limits, and need to take time to recharge. As my friend Mikala constantly tells me- “you can’t pour from an empty cup”.

What’s the hardest part of adulthood?

Remembering to pay parking tickets.

What would you tell yourself 10 years ago?

Don’t buy that skateboard. I was in a skateboarding accident 10 years ago and like 8 surgeries later am still facing down more surgery and live with chronic pain. Big mistake! HUGE!

Do you live by any mottos or mantras?

It’s a Gigi Hadid quote but it’s so perfect! “When you start working, you better be the most hardworking, nicest person in the room because if you’re not, then there’s always going to be someone prettier, nicer, and more hardworking.”

How do you stay motivated, both at work and in your active life?

I just don’t give myself the option to be lazy, like once you start forcing yourself to get things done you’d be amazed at how much you can truly get done. I’m lucky though because I get to spend so much time doing things I enjoy, I love my work, and I (sometimes hate) mostly love exercising. Passion is pretty motivating.

What advice do you have for people who want to make changes in their diets or fitness plans? Or for people who aren't happy with their status quo?

So it’s a very privileged thing to be able to say (and I’m very cognizant of that) but I truly feel that people need to start realizing that so many of the limits you put on yourself are imaginary. If you want something, go for it. If you want to move to Portugal and work at a surf camp- book that ticket. If it doesn’t work out it doesn’t work out but I think just taking any sort of action to follow your dreams is a worthwhile endeavor.

How do you turn around a bad day? Any tips/tricks?

Boxing. There is no bad day that punching something can’t cure. There’s a punching bag in the gym at work so it’s nice not having to pay for a full boxing class to get some anger out.

I make time daily for_______

Texting my best friend and my sister (although some days this still doesn’t happen!). My best friend lives in Oslo and my sister lives in Denver, so just having their input on everything from the wild goings on that happen during daily life working for BYT to even the most mundane things - hearing their voices (ALL the audio notes) makes me remember I’m not some sort of event robot machine.